My ex has been married at least three times now, and my guess is that he’s working on a forth. I heard through the grapevine that his 3rd divorced him. I knew she would as soon as her kids were grown. Something told me that she was in it for the money and cushion. To make her kid’s life better. I’m sure she’d deny it, and frankly, I don’t care.
It seems he can’t stand to live alone, as he lines up women very quickly. He was introduced to the third wife, before he left his second wives property even. Within a month of me leaving him, he’d met his 2nd wife and given her an engagement ring (Pretty sure that was the timing, could be remembering wrong)
When I left him, I attributed me staying with him to young/dumb — sometimes blonde. But, what amazes me are those who follow… I was the first wife, barely out of high school, and no experience in the world or with boys. He was literally my first everything. How do these older women fall for this guy. I look back now, and I think, ‘gosh he was such a creep.”
I mean why call me after we are separated and he has a new girlfriend (who turned out to be 2nd wife) and tell me that she MADE him respect her and would not let him perform oral sex on her until they were married. Excuse me?? We had no oral sex until we were married, and then you forced it on me, you, SOB. The lack of respect was not because there was lack enforcement on my part. I said NO, and that should have been enough. We were in someone elses house, and I did not want to make scene, therefore my silence. But, you could have introduced me to that much more slowly, and in a much more loving way.
Yes, there are times when I don’t have to dig too far for that anger. This particular episode happened within days of being married, so just say summer 1980. I didn’t need to know about his and his new girlfriends sex life. He was simply calling to rub it in, and try and hurt me. Which it did not. At the time, the reaction was, “why did he call me to tell me that?” There were times when I just wasn’t that bright.
So, ya in 1980 he was a creep. In 1996, he was still a creep. I heard his 3rd wife divorced him 2 or 3 years ago–say 2015, so even then he’s probably still a creep.
Imagine that….the more things change, the more things stay the same. Think about that!