Think your F*ed Up??

Circulating on Facebook. I just roared when I read this.  First just let me say…. you know the song, “All my Ex’s live in Texas”  well, as far as I know that is where he is.  LOL 

My ex has been married at least three times now, and my guess is that he’s working on a forth. I heard through the grapevine that his 3rd divorced him. I knew she would as soon as her kids were grown. Something told me that she was in it for the money and cushion.  To make her kid’s life better.  I’m sure she’d deny it, and frankly, I don’t care. 

It seems he can’t stand to live alone, as he lines up women very quickly. He was introduced to the third wife, before he left his second wives property even.  Within a month of me leaving him, he’d met his 2nd wife and given her an engagement ring (Pretty sure that was the timing, could be remembering wrong)

When I left him, I attributed me staying with him to young/dumb — sometimes blonde. But, what amazes me are those who follow… I was the first wife, barely out of high school, and no experience in the world or with boys. He was literally my first everything. How do these older women fall for this guy. I look back now, and I think, ‘gosh he was such a creep.”

I mean why call me after we are separated and he has a new girlfriend (who turned out to be 2nd wife) and tell me that she MADE him respect her and would not let him perform oral sex on her until they were married.  Excuse me??  We had no oral sex until we were married, and then you forced it on me,  you, SOB.  The lack of respect was not because there was lack enforcement on my part.  I said NO, and that should have been enough.  We were in someone elses house, and I did not want to make scene, therefore my silence.  But, you could have introduced me to that much more slowly, and in a much more loving way.  

Yes, there are times when I don’t have to dig too far for that anger.   This particular episode happened within days of being married, so just say summer 1980.   I didn’t need to know about his and his new girlfriends sex life.  He was simply calling to rub it in, and try and hurt me.  Which it did not.  At the time, the reaction was, “why did he call me to tell me that?”  There were times when I just wasn’t that bright. 

So, ya in 1980 he was a creep.  In 1996, he was still a creep.  I heard his 3rd wife divorced him 2 or 3 years ago–say 2015, so even then he’s probably still a creep.  
Imagine that….the more things change, the more things stay the same.  Think about that!

About PeggyAnn

Professional PC Consultant, Researcher, & avid people watcher, Peggy Ann Rowe started into her genealogical quest at age 15 after watching the mini-series, "Roots" with her parents. This new obsession has fueled her love of history, & study of cultures & societies in every epoch. Today she is 57 years old with four kids who are all grown up (& all have flown the coop). In between her 'gigs' with clients she volunteered at many different non-profits. Former President, Secretary, and Director at Large on the board of the Douglas County Historical Society for 10+ years, and former Secretary at the Cloverdale Historical Society (Sonoma County) for nearly 10 years. This website is an attempt to share the knowledge she has gained about her family ties with others who may be interested in the same things. She does not guarantee 100% accuracy and does hope that you will send corrections. To learn more about her, click the "about" button in the page menu. Thanks! Another goal of this website is to disseminate a message (i.e. education) about domestic violence, child abuse, and all forms of sexual abuse to society at large. The message comes from real experience from the whole spectrum of the violence from sexual abuse by a perpetrator to sexual abuse perpetrated by a husband, to the abuse of children within the family. Peggy has seen it, lived it, and been hurt by it. There will on occasion be details that might be hard for some people to read, and a warning is usually posted at the beginning of the essay so that those who want to turn and not read may do so. The only way to teach and to let others learn what to avoid is to SHARE what happened with every detail necessary to make the point. Thank you.
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