It all comes down to one point…

In the 'Purpose' workshop we participated in last night, we used a special deck of cards to find our 'gifts'.  The cards pictured here are my gifts and what I use and have used to accomplish my goal, which are also my 'gifts'.  (roseburgthip.com / blue zones umpqua)
In the ‘Purpose’ workshop we participated in last night, we used a special deck of cards to find our ‘gifts’. The cards pictured here are my gifts and what I use and have used to accomplish my goal, which are also my ‘gifts’.

Not quite sure just why I am so worn out at the end of each day. I am not liking that I can not accomplish all that I want each day. LOL, I am not used to being slowed down. I wanted to write what is below last night and did not have the energy.

Yesterday’s class about ‘purpose’ confirmed for me that which I knew. I’ve known my purpose, such as it is, for a long, long time. We were given a shortened version of the workshop that the Blue Zone’s project workshop. If you live in Douglas County, then you qualify to take the workshop. (google: blue zones, Umpqua).

I am a person who has made for myself, many purposes. But, the end game for me has been for a long, long time – – expressing why (the argument), (especially) women and children need protection from abusive behaviors that are for the most part still condoned by society at large. Our country does a lot of lip service about protecting women and children. And there are a lot of compassionate, and honorable people out there trying to make a difference. But, there are just as many more willing to turn their heads, sweep under the rug, and deny what really goes on in the world, in their families, and to their children and grandchildren.

The trigger that led to this purpose was having a child hurt by my stepfather. I choose my child over everyone/anyone else in the family. I have been accused of betrayal because I chose my child. Hence, I have lost family to what I felt, and still, feel is right. It is a mighty painful price to pay, and having said that, the ‘pain’ from the situation keeps me writing about my situation, and what I learn from it. (The truth is all my children were touched in one way or another by this horrendous crime)

I hope I am healing wounds by writing what I write.  I know that I am working on healing my wounds, and I hope to prevent wounds in the future.  IF I accomplish any of the above, then I have brought joy (I hope) to someone, even if only to myself.
I hope I am healing wounds by writing what I write. I know that I am working on healing my wounds, and I hope to prevent wounds in the future. IF I accomplish any of the above, then I have brought joy (I hope) to someone, even if only to myself.

Of course, I have realized over the years, after years and years of education and picking up of the pieces, that domestic violence in my primary family played into and set us (kids) up for what happened in our family life as adults. And having said that the study of history and genealogy has led me to the conclusion that it is all generational — in other words, it is what we grow up knowing. Unless we educate ourselves about it, we are doomed to repeat it. George Bernard Shaw said that men are basically too stupid to learn from history. I beg to differ. All of us are capable of learning. Hence, my purpose.

I am one of many, many voices trying to change the future for women, children, men….. everyone and anyone who has felt the sting of a backhand, or the belittlement of a cruel statement, a threat of bodily harm, and the bruises from hands that one can not keep off another. Sexual abuse of any form. Everything I have done in my life since 1991 when I found out that MY child was hurt has come back down to this. Whether it is working to heal myself and my family, working to keep my children safe and healthy, writing for publications, including my own blog, studying history (all of it), or loving my genealogy. No one will ever silence me. Because it is increasingly apparent to me that it is going to take EVERY VOICE OF EVERY PERSON who is willing to make the changes in our culture that are needed.

My main gift has been apparent for forever now-- I loved to write essays in high school and went from that to Journalism.  As an adult, I have written letters to the editor, poems that have been published, writer and eventually editor of the Umpqua Trapper, and more....
My main gift has been apparent for forever now– I loved to write essays in high school and went from that to Journalism. As an adult, I have written letters to the editor, poems that have been published, writer and eventually editor of the Umpqua Trapper, and more…. I use my writing to accomplish all else.

I understand that friends and family (some of them) wish that I would shut up. Just know that I can not and will not. It is a drive and passion that, I think, only one that fills my particular shoes can know. I am the mother of a person(s) who was hurt for a lifetime. I am the daughter of a person who considers themselves the biggest victim in the whole situation. I am a friend to many who simply do not understand the enormous consequences (i.e. mental and physical health) of generation after generation of violence in the family. The sad part is that I am nowhere near unique.

I am very, very good at researching.  In fact, I've been paid (a lot) to research.  Research is how I discovered what domestic violence is, it is how I learned what sexual abuse was, it's how I traced my roots, and it's how I put together stories for the Umpqua Trapper.  It is most definitely a gift.  All I am doing when I do it, is answering my own curiosity, and feeding myself.
I am very, very good at researching. In fact, I’ve been paid (a lot) to research. Research is how I discovered what domestic violence is, it is how I learned what sexual abuse was, it’s how I traced my roots, and it’s how I put together stories for the Umpqua Trapper. It is most definitely a gift. All I am doing when I do it, is answering my own curiosity, and feeding myself.

I am planting seeds. And I know it. I have known it for a long, long time. Everything else is an end to a means. All else helps to support the main purpose one way or another. My life has been a participant based, customized, education-that leads this person who is meant to make a difference at some point for someone. I’ve gotten practice in writing, public speaking, and just plain making my point. It all comes down to that. The only thing that will ever stop me, is when my life stops. And I hope when that comes, I will have said enough to someone(s) to have made a difference – for at least one abused child, or one abused wife / husband. Nuff said.

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About PeggyAnn

Professional PC Consultant, Researcher, & avid people watcher, Peggy Ann Rowe started into her genealogical quest at age 15 after watching the mini-series, "Roots" with her parents. This new obsession has fueled her love of history, & study of cultures & societies in every epoch. Today she is 57 years old with four kids who are all grown up (& all have flown the coop). In between her 'gigs' with clients she volunteered at many different non-profits. Former President, Secretary, and Director at Large on the board of the Douglas County Historical Society for 10+ years, and former Secretary at the Cloverdale Historical Society (Sonoma County) for nearly 10 years. This website is an attempt to share the knowledge she has gained about her family ties with others who may be interested in the same things. She does not guarantee 100% accuracy and does hope that you will send corrections. To learn more about her, click the "about" button in the page menu. Thanks! Another goal of this website is to disseminate a message (i.e. education) about domestic violence, child abuse, and all forms of sexual abuse to society at large. The message comes from real experience from the whole spectrum of the violence from sexual abuse by a perpetrator to sexual abuse perpetrated by a husband, to the abuse of children within the family. Peggy has seen it, lived it, and been hurt by it. There will on occasion be details that might be hard for some people to read, and a warning is usually posted at the beginning of the essay so that those who want to turn and not read may do so. The only way to teach and to let others learn what to avoid is to SHARE what happened with every detail necessary to make the point. Thank you.
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